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Dr. Mahinder Watsa's sex Q&A
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Virginity questions  
My family is demanding that I get married. How can I ascertain if the girl is a virgin?

I suggest you don’t get married. Unless you appoint detectives, there is no way to find out. Spare any poor girl of your suspicious mind.
Categories: Virginity

I am 23 years old and unmarried. I had sex with a man, who now refuses to marry me. If I marry somebody else, will he find out that I am not a virgin? How can I hide the fact that I am not one?

It would be difficult to hide if your husband is the suspicious sort. At times, women in your situation visit a gynaecologist for hymen repair. Also, were you masturbating before you had sex? If yes, then your hymen would have split even before you had intercourse.
Categories: Virginity

I am a 26-year-old man. I’ve tried having intercourse with my partner, but I am unable to penetrate her since she ends up experiencing pain. She’s still a virgin, and we’ve tried experimenting with different positions but nothing has worked. What should we do?

It is likely that because of the fear of pain, she constricts her vaginal muscles. It’s a condition described as vaginismus. A local anesthetic gel will help. Also, get her to chat with her gynaecologist or a sex expert.
Categories: Pain during intercourse, Virginity, Sexual dysfunction in medical conditions

I touched my girlfriend’s vagina with semen on my hands. I just touched the clitoris and did not insert the finger inside the vagina. Her periods had ended two days ago. She is a virgin and her hymen is intact. Can she still get pregnant because of this?

Why would you be so foolish? Do you not carry a tissue? Pregnancy can occur even with the hymen intact.
Categories: Pregnancy, Virginity

I am a 21-year-old man. Every time I spend time with my girlfriend, I get an erection. I cannot control it, and eventually my penis hurts. What can I do to avoid this? My girlfriend does not want us to have sex before marriage. Please help.

Hurry back home and masturbate to relieve the blood congestion in your genitals, or request her to oblige.
Categories: Masturbation, Sexual feelings, Virginity

I’m a 21-year-old woman. While getting intimate, my partner ejaculated near my vagina but did not penetrate me. Can I still get pregnant?

There is a fair chance that the sperm, which tend to move rapidly, could enter the vagina and cause pregnancy.
Categories: Pregnancy, Virginity

I am a 21-year-old man. I get very excited with the thought of having sex with my fiancée. But she wants to have sex only after we get married. I am unable to control myself. My penis burns and pains a lot, so I masturbate. Please help.

She is right. Wait until you are married. Meanwhile, there is plenty of foreplay you can do together. Also, continue masturbating to relieve tension.
Categories: Foreplay, Masturbation, Wedding night, Virginity